I am so concerned about my sweet Adelyn. Now Becca was sassy, and is still a little sassy, but has really tamed down over the last 2-3 years. Adelyn, not sure how to handle her...she isn't "sassy" but just so...what's the word..."take that" attitude.
Example 1: being naughty and saying "no" when I tell her to go brush her teeth for bed...repeatedly. I say, "Adelyn, I'm not saying it again, do you want a spanking?" She says, "yes, spank my butt." WHAT? I don't want to spank you...I just wanted you to think I would so you would go brush your teeth you little shithead!
Example 2: she did NOT want to take a nap today, usually she lays down great and likes her naptime, but every once in awhile she will pull this for a couple days and give excuses, "potty, thirsty, different baby or animal to sleep with, etc." So today she went through the list and I was firm in saying we aren't doing that and need to go to sleep so we can be rested to play again when we wake up. She continues with excuses and calling me and getting out of bed, etc. Finally she wants her door opened...I say, "I will keep your door opened, but you need to stop talking and calling me and just close your eyes and go to bed" As soon as I get into the kitchen, she starts crying...and crying...I yell, "Adelyn, Stop Crying or I'm going to shut your door!" So I hear her get out of bed and slam her door shut, then crawls back in bed and continues crying! Where did she get this from? Even sassy Becca would stop as soon as my voice got firm or a consequence was laid out!
This should be interesting! I have to say that 95% of the time she is really a GREAT girl and such a fun, loving, humorous child...but that other 5% is definately going to give me a run for my money! It will be interesting to see if she relaxes more or gets more attitude when the baby is here.
Speaking of the baby, I had an appointment yesterday. Baby is growing...of course you can tell that by looking at me and I can tell that by the "kicks" being more "rolly nudges" at this point, things are getting squished in there! I measured 34 cm, and I am 32.5 weeks along, so just a hair over but the doctor said that it is well within the allowed measurements. The heartbeat was 140...I know that lower heartbeats are traditionally "boy" and I felt for a long time it is a boy...but lately I've been thinking pink...so basically I have no idea. All three other kids ranged from 140 to 160 with the heartbeats. When I think of this one being consistently in the lower 140's, I tend to lean towards boy...only 8 weeks left and we will find out! The baby has his/her head down and is laying on the right side, which I figured cuz that side is a little "bumped up" from the other side, and when he/she "shifts" their body, it looks like I have an alien about to poke through my belly! I LOVE this feeling of the movements, I love that you can almost tell if it was an entire hiney moving or if a hand or elbow is poking you or if a foot is pushing against your tummy/ribs/side while the baby tries to stretch those legs out! Weight wise, I am exactly where I was at 32 weeks with Sam, just checked his book tonight...yes, I gain 40lbs. each pregnancy and usually lose all but 5 with each, which puts me 20 lbs overweight! ha ha ha I will be doing the workout I did before where I saw some great results in pretty quick time.
Sam is doing better with eating, and his reading is going GREAT! He was struggling but all of a sudden he is like "I got this"...he LOVES the Dr. Suess books and reads them very well. Tonight I was making supper while he did his math homework and he did not stumble on any of the story problem or directions...I almost cried...when your child struggles with anything, you feel their pain and struggles...when they conquer it, it is the BEST feeling EVER! His confidence has boosted SO much this last week or two!
Becca, my super confident, "I can do anything" girl, is really good at whatever she tries (except Golf...ha ha) Her big news this week was that she lost her FIRST TOOTH! She pulled it out at school and everyone cheered and was so excited for her...just the attention she would expect! She was SO excited to come and show me. The toothfairy left her $5.00, a note, and the tooth for a keepsake. She like the "fancy" writing the toothfairy wrote her name in and has since then been bringing home pictures with that same "fancy" writing on them. Her birthday party is Sunday and I thought I would just buy her cake from the store...she let me know she wants me to make it, and put make-up stuff on it, and hearts, and sparkles...real girly. It made me feel good to know that they really like my cake making, and if that is one thing I can do to make them feel special and loved...then that is what I will do.
I love my children SOOOOOOOOO much....they are all so unique and fun and different, and yet so similar. I found a poem/story thing I wrote when Becca was just a baby and it brought tears to my eyes to read it...this time goes by SO quickly. I should post it on here...I will in the next few days.
Thursday, November 19, 2009
Monday, November 2, 2009
Medical System...what happened to you?
I am really losing faith in the medical system. Not only the "scare tactics" about everything...especially the swine flue, but the unneccessary hoops one must go through to get no results in which we still pay for. Now, I am a person who ALWAYS tries to see things from each point of view on all issues...but after time and time of the same crap, I am really leaning away from medical and leaning more towards the natural remedies.
Example: The air is changing, the house is dry, we were waking up with dry itchy throats and phlemge (sp?) which irritated our throats. Sam's started first 2 weeks ago and I noticed a white spot in his throat and thought, "strep"...so I took him in. I tried to just get a culture done without an actual visit as our private self employed insurance is about as good as a hole in a canoe going down the river. Of course I can't, I have to see a doctor so I can pay $150.00 for them to say, "let's do a culture". Comes back negative. So I do the humidifiers and vapor liquid and give Sam some Claritin for his allergies which caused the swelling and throat irritation. Fine. Me however, I keep getting his "soar throat" every night. I try the humidifier, I try the vapor, I try the propped up pillows...a little better, but not really. So I try Chloreseptic, works for like 15 minutes. I try Tylenol, not much help. Finally, I do the salt water gargle...pain gone. As much as I HATE gargling, and end up usually throwing up from it, it works.
Okay...back to today. So the kids are better but still have some plemge in the morning to "hack up" I show them how and tell them everyone gets it, blah blah blah. But today Sam's had blood in his, and not just a pinkish streak, I mean, more blood than mucus. Along with the other things we're dealing with Sam, I was worried enough to take him in to get it checked out. I first called the nurse, but wasn't getting a return call. Finally once in the waiting room, she calls me and basically it can be nothing or something major and anything in between. So I was glad to be there.
I tell the nurse and doctor the story of what has been going on. About a month ago, maybe 3 weeks ago we had a pot roast for dinner. Sam choked, and I mean really choked. It was quite possibly the scariest thing I have experienced so far as a parent. Once we got the meat out of him, and he was okay, Jason and I both cried. Just thinking of the incident brings tears to my eyes and I hope to never experience that again! So after that incident, Sam began not eating, and we as caring parents understood the drama he went through and were sensitive to his fear so we allowed it to a point, but it got ridiculous...really bad. Sam used to eat 1 1/2 waffles and a sausage patty as a breakfast, he now barely eats 1/2 of the waffle. It is like this EVERY meal, no matter if he chooses the meal or not. We have gotten firm and this last weekend it really got to us and we yelled, punished, took things away, etc. Nothing phased him, he just "isn't hungry" EVER! He hasn't been sick, but hasn't quite been himself and gets worn down easily, we assumed it was happening from lack of food and how busy it's been with Halloween, pumpkin parties, cub scouts, etc. We are a very busy family and sometimes we forget how that can wear a kid down.
The doctor asks, "does your throat hurt?" Sam says, "no".
"how about when you eat? does it hurt when you swallow?" "No"
"Does he have a cough?" "No, just in the morning when trying to hack up the phlemge"
"Does he have any fevers?" "No, the other night he felt warm but I couldn't get the thermometer to work and the one time it came on it said 99.6, but he is warm bodied. I gave him some Motrin but he was completely fine in the morning and all the next days"
So...the doctor says his tonsils are swollen and he wants to do a strep culture....I protest saying that we just had one done 2 weeks ago and there are no white spots and he says his throat doesn't hurt. "some children show no signs of it and due to the swollen tonsils I want to make sure." $$$$$$$$$$$$$$
He also wants to do an Xray of Sam's chest which I think is a good idea since the bloody mucus and all. That comes back clean, no pnuemonia and no signs of anything else. "I want to write a prescription for an antibiotic for bronchitus" I question why would we give him an anitboiotic for bronchitus if it the Xray was clean. "due to the blood in the phelmge" I ask if there were any signs of bronchitus and he says, "no, but this is a clinical diagnosis" $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
And Sam has lost 3 lbs in 2 weeks from when I took him in to test for strep, that concerns him, and me, but I need to take that up with his regular doctor, so set up an appointment so she can do more testing.$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
So I wonder why we run tests that the questions and symptoms don't support? Why did we not do any more of the "testing" when the first 2 things come back normal? Why do I have to come home and research things to diagnose my own child when I probably just spent $450.00 in Urgent Care? When did our doctors become nothing but "salespeople" to run tests and spend our money with no care over my child?
I am really frustrated, really really frustrated! And if anyone wants to give suggestions, I am open to them, but if anyone wants to rant about why we need Obama's "free" health care, please just exit now, or I will have to write another 5 pages on how that "free" plan will automatically cost Jason and I $9,000.00 that we don't pay now. Thank you.
Example: The air is changing, the house is dry, we were waking up with dry itchy throats and phlemge (sp?) which irritated our throats. Sam's started first 2 weeks ago and I noticed a white spot in his throat and thought, "strep"...so I took him in. I tried to just get a culture done without an actual visit as our private self employed insurance is about as good as a hole in a canoe going down the river. Of course I can't, I have to see a doctor so I can pay $150.00 for them to say, "let's do a culture". Comes back negative. So I do the humidifiers and vapor liquid and give Sam some Claritin for his allergies which caused the swelling and throat irritation. Fine. Me however, I keep getting his "soar throat" every night. I try the humidifier, I try the vapor, I try the propped up pillows...a little better, but not really. So I try Chloreseptic, works for like 15 minutes. I try Tylenol, not much help. Finally, I do the salt water gargle...pain gone. As much as I HATE gargling, and end up usually throwing up from it, it works.
Okay...back to today. So the kids are better but still have some plemge in the morning to "hack up" I show them how and tell them everyone gets it, blah blah blah. But today Sam's had blood in his, and not just a pinkish streak, I mean, more blood than mucus. Along with the other things we're dealing with Sam, I was worried enough to take him in to get it checked out. I first called the nurse, but wasn't getting a return call. Finally once in the waiting room, she calls me and basically it can be nothing or something major and anything in between. So I was glad to be there.
I tell the nurse and doctor the story of what has been going on. About a month ago, maybe 3 weeks ago we had a pot roast for dinner. Sam choked, and I mean really choked. It was quite possibly the scariest thing I have experienced so far as a parent. Once we got the meat out of him, and he was okay, Jason and I both cried. Just thinking of the incident brings tears to my eyes and I hope to never experience that again! So after that incident, Sam began not eating, and we as caring parents understood the drama he went through and were sensitive to his fear so we allowed it to a point, but it got ridiculous...really bad. Sam used to eat 1 1/2 waffles and a sausage patty as a breakfast, he now barely eats 1/2 of the waffle. It is like this EVERY meal, no matter if he chooses the meal or not. We have gotten firm and this last weekend it really got to us and we yelled, punished, took things away, etc. Nothing phased him, he just "isn't hungry" EVER! He hasn't been sick, but hasn't quite been himself and gets worn down easily, we assumed it was happening from lack of food and how busy it's been with Halloween, pumpkin parties, cub scouts, etc. We are a very busy family and sometimes we forget how that can wear a kid down.
The doctor asks, "does your throat hurt?" Sam says, "no".
"how about when you eat? does it hurt when you swallow?" "No"
"Does he have a cough?" "No, just in the morning when trying to hack up the phlemge"
"Does he have any fevers?" "No, the other night he felt warm but I couldn't get the thermometer to work and the one time it came on it said 99.6, but he is warm bodied. I gave him some Motrin but he was completely fine in the morning and all the next days"
So...the doctor says his tonsils are swollen and he wants to do a strep culture....I protest saying that we just had one done 2 weeks ago and there are no white spots and he says his throat doesn't hurt. "some children show no signs of it and due to the swollen tonsils I want to make sure." $$$$$$$$$$$$$$
He also wants to do an Xray of Sam's chest which I think is a good idea since the bloody mucus and all. That comes back clean, no pnuemonia and no signs of anything else. "I want to write a prescription for an antibiotic for bronchitus" I question why would we give him an anitboiotic for bronchitus if it the Xray was clean. "due to the blood in the phelmge" I ask if there were any signs of bronchitus and he says, "no, but this is a clinical diagnosis" $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
And Sam has lost 3 lbs in 2 weeks from when I took him in to test for strep, that concerns him, and me, but I need to take that up with his regular doctor, so set up an appointment so she can do more testing.$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
So I wonder why we run tests that the questions and symptoms don't support? Why did we not do any more of the "testing" when the first 2 things come back normal? Why do I have to come home and research things to diagnose my own child when I probably just spent $450.00 in Urgent Care? When did our doctors become nothing but "salespeople" to run tests and spend our money with no care over my child?
I am really frustrated, really really frustrated! And if anyone wants to give suggestions, I am open to them, but if anyone wants to rant about why we need Obama's "free" health care, please just exit now, or I will have to write another 5 pages on how that "free" plan will automatically cost Jason and I $9,000.00 that we don't pay now. Thank you.
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